How to talk to a guy who is intimidating
Or he may just be the sort of person who prefers a quieter, demure, more “feminine” personality. While there are plenty who can appreciate an outgoing partner – one who would compliment them, be the yang to their yin – more are likely to feel steamrolled by someone so dominant.
A shy guy, even one who wishes women would be more assertive and take the initiative, can have a low threshold when it comes to directness and energy.
Wide smiles that reach your eyes (the “Duchenne Smile”) and open, welcoming body language can make a shy or introverted guy feel more welcome.
Showing genuine interest or honest appreciation in his accomplishments or hobbies can also help him overcome feelings of “What could she possibly see in me?
Now, that having been said: you want to consider toning down your behavior somewhat.
This isn’t to say that there’s something wrong with being high-energy or being a tomboy, just that there can be a fine line between being energetic and outgoing and being obnoxious.
A good guy friend of mine I’ve known for years, we’re hanging out at his coming home party, family barbeque/get together thing, and he brings up how he’s always been intimidated by me. Does that imply he might think that you’re battier than a bedbug? Still, could be a fierce intelligence, financial superiority, or any other empowering traits.He may feel as though he’s going to have to put on a performance in order to keep up with her.He may be overwhelmed by the force of her personality and worry that he will be forced to be the inferior partner in the relationship.Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.